Get Ex Back By Asking Wisely
Thursday, May 28th, 2009Your ex dumped you and you want them back. So you’ve called and made a powerful apology about what you did wrong. Now what do you say to get them to give you another chance? You can learn more about getting back together here.
A good first thing to realize is that each break up is different. You can’t make a blanket rule about what to say or do. You have to feel it out with your ex.
What if you were too controlling or jealous. You’ve apologized. They seem like they are open to you once more. What now? If you push too hard, they will feel like you haven’t changed much, won’t they?
So you say something natural like “Will you give us a second chance so I can show you I’ve changed?” That’s obvious and normal. Here’s where you have to be wise. You’ve given them the ball. Let them have it. Let them be in charge for the reconnect.
Every ex and every situation is different. Asking someone to take you back whom you hurt badly enough to make them leave you is a big deal. Can you understand that? This is not some small thing. You have created strong negative feelings in your ex. This is why they left you. Asking them to take you back may seem like a small or obvious or necessary thing to you, but put yourself in their shoes. (Go here for a complete course on How To Get Relationship Help)
Your ex doesn’t want to make a mistake here. They don’t want to take you back and then have you hurt them again.
So let them have control. Ask them to take you back, and see what happens. Don’t try to push the issue. If they want to think about it, ask them if you can call them in a day or two. If they seem more open to you, you can ask if you can come over and talk about it tonight.
Your job is to make a sincere apology and then ask them to take you back. That’s your part. Then give them control, feel them out, let them be in charge of when and how to take you back. You can get a complete system for Get Your Ex Back In Hours here.